Bullets to the Soul
I remember very well how, as a child, I was very amused by the cartoon image in which the character was shot and then tried to drink water as if nothing had happened to him. It was then that the […]
Thoughts
Trails in the Forest
I remember how at the age of 12 my Dutch grandfather paid me 10 florins to clear the fallen leaves of the trails of a small forest, of almost one hectare, from his property. The purpose was to instill a […]
In the Doll’s Workshop
In the doll’s workshop I was a girl back in the late 70s and early 80s. I loved dolls. As a child I played with the Barriguitas, which were small and chubby. I loved the Nenucos (who threw little bubbles […]
THE CIRCUS ELEFANT
The helplessness experienced when not being able to stop the traumatic events, is –according to Finkelhor- one of the biggest reasons why the survivors live with a feeling of helplessness, forthe rest of their lives. Whatever you do, the situation […]
Pavlov’s Dogs
Has your mouth ever watered as you smelled a delicious meal? Have you ever awakened before the alarm sounds, as if your mind knew what time it was? Or that you get hungry, with an empty stomach feeling when you […]
The Suits of the Backroom
In the back of your mind you have a storage room. In that room there is a closet full of costumes. They are costumes that you have accumulated over the years. Many, most, are from your childhood. Some very expensive, […]
The need to Forgive
Many people with good intention have advised survivors of sexual abuse to simply forgive. They have been assured that instant healing of their emotions will happen. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and when there is no evidence of […]
Same stuff happens everytime
“Instead of asking yourself why the same things always happen to you, ask yourself why you always choose the same paths.” -Velos In the picture we see a person at the bottom of the road that reminds us of […]
The Caterpillar that Bit the Dust
We all know the life of the caterpillar that has to bite the dust, dragging its plump body in search of food. We can imagine the caterpillar thinking: “Will my existence always be like this? Why do I have the […]
Turn a Deaf Ear
I love the following story. You may have read it already, but I encourage you to think about the final reflection I make. “A group of frogs was walking through the forest, when, unexpectedly, two of them fell into […]